XU XI:
hello :) i read your reply already . and thanks . but now i guess it is over , because yesterday when i go to class , everyone was teasing about me and mark . so when i approached a classmate of mine , he say that every one know that the love bite on mark's neck is me who give it to him . i was shocked and went to take a look , indeed , it was really a love bite . but the problem is , it is not me who give it to him . this is the third time i saw a love bite on his neck , every single time when our lesson on wednesday are cancelled , the next day he return to school with a love bite on his neck . and he claims that is mosquito bite . it is just a big lie he say . this time , i couldn't endure anymore and i tell him that we will just remain as friend and nothing happen before to us , even if it did , we will end it this time . he said that i do not trust him yet he trusted me so much . i know i hurt him so much this time , but he never know how much pain would it be for a girl to see a love bite on her 'boyfriend' neck .
yesterday , rick accompany me throughout the night . and i did try to stay as a friend status with him , but we were out to drink and i got drunk . i mistaken him as mark and we got itimated . but rick was really nice enough to control himself and therefore did not do anything to me . athari , do you think i am two timing ? one of my friend say that i am and it is bad to both of them . i don't miss mark as much as last time anymore unless i see him in school , my feelings will return . but as for rick , i realised that i have been waiting for him to contact me and looking forward to see him more and more each day . what should i do ? i want to stop this awkward feeling i have inside of me . and hope to solve this confusion . thanks and god bless you .


athari:your class thinking is just un-matured. maybe you should try asking mark what gone into him .if he is cheating on you. and if its a yes, definitely you have to end it with him.
you should thank rick for being there for you all these times.

FYI: you're not two timing! .you should just explain to your friend that rick is just a close friend of yours and mean while mark is just complicating status. .
you MAY WANT to tell rick that some how you have some feeling for him .but this is your choice. .maybe one day you will realise that you still have to let go. hope youre fine XuXi .just look on the bright side of life.

xu xi:
hello,my name is xu xi .:) i came across your blog through many many links, and i find this speak up board a really cool thing .just like having some online counselling ,where you don't have to fear that the other partner will spill your secrets out .
i have a major problems that i need people to give me advise . firstly , i have been in love with a guy , mark , from my class for 6months , i was in the late april intake of a ite school , therefore , it was around the starting of may that i fall in love with him . i tried ways to get close to him , and when i finally did , he told me that he like me too . but one problem , he doesn't seems to really be interested in me , and many of my classmates say that he is just indecisive and playing with me . i feel hurt every single time they say this . i waited for him , and in his mind , we are together . but to me , i don't feel that way . because i know deep in my heart that he doesn't even have the intention to be my steady .
meanwhile , there is a classmate of mine and a brother of mark, rick , who i am very close with . we starting being close just 2months before and we react towards each other just like 'childhood friends' , who were close , walked hand in hand in public , a goodbye hug . sadly , he'll be sent back to his country , england as his parents had ended their working contract in singapore . on dec5 , would be his last day here and he has a girlfriend , who has been waiting for him in england for close to 2 years . just yesterday , he confessed to me that he like me but because i have a ' boyfriend ' , that is why he had always hide his feeling towards me . and he give me a kiss on my lips twice , i stared in space with shock , and i told him that he has a girlfriend who has been waiting for him , and we are impossible because we both have alot of differences . he told me that he doesn't like his girlfriend anymore because of me , but i still rejected his love in the end . after which , he turn and walked away and i chased him . i hug him and kiss him back on his lips and we started frenching . i know that spending time with him nowdays make me fall in love with him and forget mark . but , he will be leaving singapore in 9 days time and perhaps we wouldn't get to see each other anymore . i was devastated and today when we met in class , we acted as though nothing happen . when he saw me and mark seating next to each other , he would act as though he didn't see it and turn away . and the whole of today , i have been treating mark really really cold . i don't wish to get close to him , or even to see him . i texted him after school and asked him what if i am no longer love him anymore , what will he do . and he replyed saying that he will die without me .
hey athari , could you please give a solution to my problem ? i am confused . i don't want others to think of me as a flirtatious girl . but all this while , it has been rick who is by my side . i don't know how to be true to mark and tell him that i do have feelings for his brother , and i know that my heart likes both right now . but on the other hand , rick has a girlfriend in england waiting for him and i have a 'boyfriend' . what should i do?


athari:
thank you(=.
first thing, why would he say that he like you but not interested?.
i understand how you feel.its like waiting while nothing is coming. but there is a chance that he might have his own reasons but you cant just give up on him. then about rick, you both just cant be together because these obstacles such like he have a girlfriend and he assumed that you have a boyfriend. you did the right thing to reject because you dont want a conflict between rick and his awaiting girlfriend. i know its hard but this is life. sacrifices. you shouldnt have treated rick cold. and for mark, try to confront him, not practically confront but talk with mark with open minds and re-considering your relationship with mark about both of you and about rick.

the main thing now is just treat rick the same like you use to be and do remmember him as a friend.
for mark, you might considering talking to him.

ONE THING= be strong againts all odds(=
good luck with whats upcoming to you and don't for get to update me yaw(=

takecare(=

eeqa:
ARII! congrats on ur new Speak -up. its gg too well!
i've viewed it. huhu!

btw, ok. now i think i have time to share my PROB! :

i have a pathetic stupid guy , RASHID, once a love one, once a betrayer, once a cheater. and i still love him. and it's way too hard to leave him. sometimes if he's in the wrong, he will always blame it back on me. but we do still love each other, what should i do?

ATHARI:
one thing for sure you are the manager of your life .you can choose what you really want .
if you really still want to be with him, you have to bare consequences. if you choose not to be with him, you will regret right?.the only thing you is you think over and choose what is right for you. who knows 'Rashid' clone from cck might be yours(= .LOL! .

Zam-Buk:
hi. my nick is Zam-Buk. :)
i happen to come across ur blog. congrats on the first opening.
anyway...i have this problem.. i am attach... but i sort of have this crush on my working friend. he is really a very handsome guy..
i have a crush on him for sort of very long..but he is those kind of guy that i can never have.. my boyfriend currently knows i use to like him.. i feel like if i dont go to work.. or see him, i wont like him..but when i start talking to him.. i feel completely different... why?

ATHARI:
thanks(= .i see . then is called eye-candy(= .when you see that guy, you will fly high. its because this guy have aura that make you feel like this.
but, when youre with your boyfriend, you totally forgot about the guy. this is
simple, just dont get too close with the guy at work and everything will be just fine .just be confident in yourself. be strong.

MEL:Hello athari.
I have this problem where my parents actually wants me to work fulltimer
rather than retaking my Nitec. Yes, i want to go back to school and
at the same time i work as a partimer. But they so called like disagree
with my thought because they always think that they are right.
Im abit stress thinking about it. What should i do ?
Listen to them or do what i want to strive for the best ?

ATHARI: hello(= okayy why not you try talking to them again.
talk trough and talk confidently that you want to take Nitec. they might considering it. whatever happens you also try to listen to your parents .if dont allow, then you really have to find job. but 1st thing is just go and talk slowly with them.
they might change thier mind(=

JIM: this place is kinda cool but i got a problem to share. you see, i got this wierd feeling toward a friend of mine at school. she's been very good to me. but the main thing is i really dont like her cos she is those not my type of person. i used to ignore her everyday in school but now she is getting closer to me and i got this wierd feeling coming up whenever she leaves, a feeling that i dont want her leave. i'vebeen telling myself that i cant have this feeling because i dont like her on any way .how? can you tell me what to do?

ATHARI: hmmm, what is it about her you dont like?. thos kind of situation you have to face the fact and your feelings. heart is where your real feelings come from. its not your eyes or your brain. maybe deep inside youve develop a good feeling for that girl. just be friends and if one day your feelings get stronger, you just have to open up and just tell her. if right now you still dont like her in any way and you think being friends with her is a big problem then just tell her now. you dont want your self to go insane( just kidding). its better to just tell the truth.

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